Potty training is a hot topic for every parent, so we reached out to a Charlottesville expert. Not only does Dr. Cara Goodwin have the academic training with a PhD in Child Psychology, but she is also a mother of 4. She has combined all of her knowledge and experience into the Parenting Translator, where she translates recent scientific research into information parents can easily implement. Watch for Dr. Goodwin’s monthly columns on CharlottesvilleFamily.com, follow along at her Instagram account @parentingtranslator and her website: www.ParentingTranslator.com.She has also shared expert advice on sleep-training backed by research. Now, what do the experts have to tell us about potty training?
When Is the Best Time to Start Potty Training?
According to the research, the sweet spot for toilet training seems to be between 27 to 32 months for most children. However, every child is different. You should base your timeline on your child’s individual signs of readiness. These signs include staying dry for longer periods of time, seeming uncomfortable with soiled diapers, interest in the toilet or wearing underwear, and ability to follow simple instructions.
Research has found that children who are trained at younger ages (in this case, before 27 months) are no less likely to experience accidents or stool refusal than children trained after 27 months (Blum et al., 2003). However, this study also found that the younger a child is when beginning the process of toilet training, the LONGER the process will take to complete. More specifically, children who started potty training between 18 to 24 months took 13 to 14 months on average to complete training. Children who started toilet training after 27 months took 10 months or less on average to complete training. A Swedish study also found that only 31% of 2-year-olds have sufficient bladder sensation to successfully toilet train, while 79% of 3-year-olds do (Jansson et al 2005).
Another line of research has found that children trained at older ages may also have difficulty with potty training. In particular, children who are trained after 32 months may be more likely to have accidents and difficulty with toilet training (Barone et al 2009; Bakker et al 2002)
What Is the Most Effective Method for Potty Training?
Anyone who has googled “potty training” will find books and websites that claim to know the ONLY effective method for toilet training your child…. But is there any research that actually supports these claims?
Surprisingly, a systematic review of toilet training conducted by the Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality (AHRQ) found that research on this topic is extremely limited (Klassen et al., 2006). The big take-away message is that there is NO strong research evidence for a “right” way to toilet train. However, the authors did find evidence that the Child-Oriented method (Brazelton, 1962) and Azrin & Foxx’s method of toilet training (Foxx & Azrin, 1973) resulted in effective toilet training for most typically developing children.
Both methods suggest that parents toilet train between 2 and 3 years of age. Otherwise, the methods are very different. The Child-Oriented approach is designed to be gradual and led by the child, while Azrin & Foxx’s method is intensive and led by the parents.


The Child-Oriented Approach by Dr. Brazelton
The Child-Oriented approach (developed by Dr. Berry Brazelton in 1962) is a gradual approach that lets the child decide when they are ready to use the toilet. It involves showing your child the toilet and modeling toileting for them. The parent allows the child to sit on the toilet with no pressure.
After a few weeks of this, the parent then empties a diaper into the toilet. The parent then removes the child’s diaper and pants for short time intervals and the child is encouraged to use the toilet whenever they need to. If the child successfully uses the toilet, the parent would then put the child in training pants. Throughout this process, the parent praises any success and avoids criticism. For more information, you can find the book (Toilet Training- The Brazelton Way) at local book retailers.
The Azrin & Foxx Potty Training Method
The Azrin & Foxx method (developed in 1973) is a parent-led approach that is designed to be more intensive and quicker than the Child-Oriented approach. This approach involves putting the child immediately in underwear and encouraging the child to drink lots of liquid. Then, show the child the expected toileting behavior by using a doll, providing consistent rewards for successful toileting, prompting the child to regularly try to use the toilet, and guiding the child to the bathroom after an accident. For more information, you can find their book (Toilet Training in Less Than a Day) at local book retailers.
Only one study directly compared the Azrin & Foxx method to the Child-Oriented method and found that the Azrin & Foxx method was associated with reduced accidents and increased rates of successful toileting. However, another study found that children demonstrated more temper tantrums in response to the Azrin & Foxx method, suggesting this method may be too intensive for some children.
In summary, there is NO single “right” method to toilet train according to the research. Choose whatever method seems best for your child and how your household operates and don’t let anyone tell you that you are doing it wrong!
Why Do Some Children Struggle with Potty Training?
What might predict whether your child will have difficulty with toilet training? Most children typically begin toilet training sometime between 21 to 36 months and only 40 to 60 percent of children are fully toilet trained by 36 months (Stadtler, Gorski, & Brazelton, 1999). So, if your child is struggling with toilet training, know that you are not alone!
Research has found that difficulty with toilet training has been associated with the following: the presence of younger siblings during toilet training, parents with difficulty setting limits, and training at an older age (older than 42 months in this case) (Taubman, 1997).
Also, a very interesting study found that reducing shame around bowel movements may reduce the time to toilet train. In this study, parents were encouraged to praise the child for having a bowel movement before toilet training and to avoid using words to negatively refer to defecating (such as “stinky”, “gross”, etc.). The parents who used this more positive approach had children who were successfully toilet trained more quickly (Taubman, Blum, & Nemeth, 2003).

Do Boys Have More Trouble with Potty Training?
Wondering if there is any truth to boys having more difficulty with potty training than girls? There is some science to back up this parenting myth. Research finds that girls are typically toilet trained 2 to 3 months before boys (32.5 months vs. 35 months) and they begin showing readiness signs 2 months before boys (24 months vs. 26 months) (Schum et al., 2002)
Finally, if your child continues to struggle with potty training, check with your pediatrician to be sure that there are no underlying medical issues. Research shows that children with lower urinary tract symptoms were more likely to be toilet trained at a later age (Bakker et al., 2002). In addition, hard and painful bowel movements have been found to be associated with “stool toileting refusal” behavior (refusing to have a bowel movement on the toilet). This is a condition that impacts up to 1 in 4 children (Blum, Taubman & Nemeth, 2004). Improving your child’s diet and fluid intake may also improve stool toileting refusal.
What About Nighttime Potty Training?
Most children are not developmentally capable of remaining dry at night until 4 or 5 years (Fergusson et al., 1986). A large study found that about 30% of children experience bedwetting at 4.5 years and about 9.5% still experience it at 9.5 years (Butler & Heron, 2007). Research has also found that children attain nighttime dryness an average of 10 months after achieving daytime dryness (Jansson et al., 2005).
However, if your child continues to struggle with nighttime potty training after the age of 5 years, you might want to try some strategies to help your child to stay dry at night. The easiest strategies to try are waking up your child to use the bathroom before you go to bed yourself and limiting fluid intake before bedtime.
Strategies for Nighttime Potty Training
If those strategies do not work, a great evidence-based strategy is an alarm that wakes your child up when they start urinating. One of the most common of these alarms is called TheraPee. Six randomized controlled trials (the “gold standard” of study designs) have found that bedwetting alarms are very effective in helping children to stay dry at night.
Specifically, these studies have found that 77% of children using these alarms are able to stay dry for 14 nights in a row. Only 2% of children in the study without these alarms had 14 dry nights in a row (NCGC, 2010). Children in these studies ranged in age from 8 to 10 years and the treatment lasted between 10 to 20 weeks.

A hormone treatment referred to as desmopressin has also been found to be effective in reducing nighttime bedwetting. A review combining 47 randomized controlled trials found that desmopressin treatment results in 81% of children achieving 14 dry nights in a row (while only 2% of children without the treatment achieved this goal) (Glazener & Evans, 2002).
Studies find no difference in the effectiveness for bedwetting alarms versus desmopressin (research finds that both methods are very effective!). However, the effectiveness of the alarm treatment may last longer. It was found more children were able to stay dry after treatment was completed with the alarm than with desmopressin (Glazener & Evans, 2002). Additionally, desmopressin is associated with serious (but rare) side effects, while the alarm has no side effects (besides potentially disrupting your own sleep!).
DR. CARA DAMIANO GOODWIN, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist and a Charlottesville mother to four children. She received a PhD in child clinical psychology from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, a Master’s in Developmental Psychiatry from Cambridge University, and a Master’s in Child Psychology from Vanderbilt University. Dr. Goodwin completed a postdoctoral fellowship at Duke University. She specializes in child development and has spent years researching child psychology and neuroscience and providing therapy and clinical services for children of all ages. She has published 18 research articles in peer-reviewed academic journals, written two book chapters, and completed numerous conference presentations. Dr. Goodwin translates recent scientific research into information parents can access and implement in their everyday lives through her Instagram account @parentingtranslator and her website: www.ParentingTranslator.com.
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References on Potty Training
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